Succeed in the trap needing avoiding on the road

submitted 28-07-2010

Succeeding has many roads, but there are successful traps on each road, which succeed in the trap you know to have Do you know how to avoid these traps This text tells you how to avoid detours in succeeding on the road, will succeed as soon as possible.

1.With the bitterness in order to work: In competition era, succeed in only regarding fruiting as the standard, ignore the course.

1)Competition era: There are only contributions, bitter work: In the intersection of planned economy and era, some have people succeeded to make often by " have no contributioning, bitter to work" Come to try to explain away for oneself. Yes, no matter what the achievement is, so long as you have made it hard, people see it is in a conscientious and down-to-earth manner that you do things, the party concerned will arrange a good position for you, make you satisfied. However, makes efficiency a priority in commercial age, speaks by the achievement in ; No matter how you work hard, no matter how busy you are, if you lack efficiency, without achievement, then it is all waste, there is no value in all devotion that everything works hard. Everything is by succeeding in speaking, only successful, your devotion could get the repayment, the suffering that you go through is valuable. This is an era speaking by the achievement, in this era, there is only the contribution, not bitter to work.

It was once Zhang Shuxin of the president of communication company of information of YHW, said when submit the resignation to shareholders' general meetings: "YHW staff have gone through the constant tempering and twists together in the past three years, having nearly made all mistakes that this trade can make, this pair of industry and the whole information industry are a sum of wealth. " But she says again at the same time: "Though we have paid much bitterness, has paid a lot of emotions, though we still think it is very outstanding, but we have not won after all. The victor, for the king, the market is cruelty. " Her words say " competition era, advocate powerhouses " Reason. If you want to let you work hard and deserve hard, you must succeed.

2)It succeeds in to be to dispel best to solve medicines a painful one: In competition era, succeed in only regarding fruiting as the standard, ignore the course. Have only contribution is bitter to work, go through bitter to work commercial age, also unable to get the contribution, will not fall down the pie automatically in the sky, there is not a lunch eaten in the world free. Even get these by sheer good luck, can't be called success either, then is named luck. And luck is untrustworthy. So, that " trusts to chance and strokes of luck " Farmer,has to because the crops go out of cultivation hungry stomach. Once of , partner Cao Qing when a friend asks that starts an undertaking with me: If there is any feeling while starting an undertaking with me originally, bitter, tired. He answered at that time: It is a bit more bitter, a bit more hard, but remember now that does not matter either, it is so interesting that only think. The reason why he feels pretty good, and feel happy for this, this no doubt relates to youthful time at that time, but the more important is he has succeeded, and the one that succeeded in dissolving him and went through originally worked hard. If he gives up midway, or not succeeded for some reasons, then he will be never this kind of answer now. So it succeeds in to be to dispel a painful one to be best to solve medicines.

3)This world belongs to the powerhouse forever: The people with historical knowledge know, the powerhouse has been dominating this history of the world all the time, as big company make the sector standard of trade that determine also in the economical circles just.

Since modern, the tendency of country of China is on the decline, accumulate the weak tired fraud, is bullied and insulted by big powers. After the First World War, China has got rid of the invasion and oppression as Germany of the defeated nation as the victorious nation, but in the groups of the Entente Countries that are defeated, China can not still share the happiness of any victory. By the meeting of dividing the spoils after the war which big powers control, unexpectedly obtained Germany in China in the past the benefit to transfer to Japan! After World War II, China was the victorious nation, it was the international court-martial of the Far East presided over by No.1 powerful country U.S.A., let my darling is at large in carry on living the intersection of people and dissect, implementing bacteriological warfare stone well 4, head of Japanese aggressor troop, cruel by China unexpectedly. The reason is, U.S.A. wants to make the Japanese aggressor troop and carry on the research materials of the experiment made on the living in China, regarded protecting my darling of stone well four from being tried as give-and-take conditions unexpectedly. This therefore has escaped the destiny of sending to gallows while violating humanity, homicidal devil without human most nature most.

Create huge the intersection of pain and deep north and south of Korea Peninsula, split now, beautiful, Su contend for hegemony by the whole world, product of power politics too. This logic that is the powerhouse of . The powerhouse makes game rules. If you want to make game rules, you must become the powerhouse.

Powerhouse's logic can be stressed in the society instantly. In the fields of highly competitive business circles etc., change with each passing day, once manage improperly, will be eliminated, even country enlarges and strengthens calling with enterprises. It is obvious, it is the the trend of the times of times of competition to advocate powerhouses.

2.Brag about " have unrecognized talents " : Have not had unrecognized talents, only look for the opportunity.

Often complain to one's own poverty when there is a young man. , one day, he muster the courage, knock open first the intersection of rich man and door of house finally, hope that can tell him some secrets about getting rich by self-made rich man.

Have not had unrecognized talents, only look for the opportunity. "Must you wonder how self-made I am " Entering the door, the rich man asked at first. " how did you know in " The youth says secretly that surprised at the rich man's judgement.

"Because before you, many persons who is penniless had looked for me already. They were really poor and frustrated and having one's mind filled with complaints while coming, but assumed the air of and all become rich men when leaving. You have such generous wealth too, why still complain without end " " where is it here on earth in " The youth asks eagerly.

"A pair of eyes of yours. So long as you give me an eye. I can use a bag of gold as compensation. " " no, I can't lose eyes! " The youth answers loudly.

"OK, let me want a pair of hands of yours! In this way I can give all things which you wanted to get to you. " " no, both hands can't lose either! " The youth screams in the way.

"Since there are a pair of eyes, you can study; Since there are a pair of hands, you can work. Do you see now, what generous wealth you are! This is my so-called secret of getting rich. " The rich man says with a smile. The youth of listens to, wakes up such as the dream side. He thanks the rich man, has walked out striding proudly ahead, assuming the air of oneself becomes a rich man too, because he knows he has capital that got rich.

In actual life after complain the person having unrecognized talents lands on others forever, there are a lot of people like this young man, either complain destiny is unjust, or complain nobody knows and uses, " have unrecognized talents " Content with the poor haven as they. psychologist has made an experiment: Place a hungry crocodile and some small fish on both ends of the Shui nationality case, stave off the transparent glass plate in the middle. At the very beginning, the crocodile launches the attack to the small fish without the least hesitation, has failed, but not discouraged; Then, it mobilizes to the small fish for the second time and attacks more fiercely, it has also failed, and sustained a severe injury; It will attack, the third time, the fourth time After numerous attacks have no result, it no longer attacks. At this time, the psychologist takes the guard away - -Wait a moment, could you tell me: Will the crocodile still attack the small fish of those It no longer attacks the small fish. It sees those small fish swimming under his eyelid leisurely in rain and hopelessly, have given up all efforts.

It's a pity: Like this crocodile, we after numerous setback, attack and fail in a lot of person, lose fighting capacity gradually. Passion, dream of very much, the one left there are dull expression in one's eyes and sad sigh, they cannot help but begin to feel, helpless, unable. In order to cover up the shame and uneasy failing and bringing, they make great efforts to look for various excuses for oneself: Why let me go and work in the countryside and mountainous areas; This society is too unfair; I have a diploma; I look plain; I do not matter; I dislike boasting and flattering; I am too kindhearted, I hate deceiving each other; If give me an opportunity, I will get rich; Contentment brings happiness; " calm and dull it is really " Come out: They are still poor, still have unrecognized talents! " has unrecognized talents " It is given that it is people the most greatly comforting of the loser, most greatly cheat too, it is one of the success traps which people should avoid most. " have unrecognized talents " Person complain always, complain by corresponding stage society not offering, give them the chance to display one's talent. I think, " have unrecognized talents " Succeed in the largest trap in life. The opportunity favors the preparative head at all times. The successful person of a aspiration should look for the opportunity voluntarily, create the opportunity and but not wait for the opportunity. As to a what is called one " Have unrecognized talents " Person,I want say: The world will neither exist exist for you because of you, nor, unless you are regarded as " liberator " by people Or " the Saviour " And so on.

So every claim it for " has unrecognized talents " Person,without exception ground loser. " have unrecognized talents " It is given that it is people the most greatly comforting of the loser, most greatly cheat too, it is one of the success traps which people should avoid most.

3.Want to get a windfall: The person who wants to get a windfall, place hope on " accident " But not " diligent " Have, so act counter to success.

China have " horse have night fat grass, people are not so non- rich as ill-gotten wealth " from ancient times Vulgar proverb. This is thinking of a kind of typical poverty. Those make money people of route while being poor, place hope that get rich on, take place at a ill-gotten wealth often. All those places which been provided chance of getting rich for the poors,just as some, securities trading of issue of lottery, gambling house,etc., overstaffed, though the probability that can get rich is extremely small. The person that wants to get a windfall, place hope on " accident " But not " diligent " Have, so act counter to success. Some people really get a fortune through these behaviors of taking a chance by sheer good luck, having become the rich temporarily, what winner but this is far far from.

The state lives to make investigation and count before and after someone persons who once got Grand Prix in buying lottery tickets, the result shows: Poverty state before over 80% of the life of winner in the lottery has got back to and has not prized again, and is doing his job unwilling to do originally. , in fact, as to Chinese stock market, the trials and hardships of 12 years, China stock market got considerable development, but since the second half of 2001, Chinese stock market has fallen into one and a half years -long drop and weak state. Up till now, according to over these 12 years' relevant statistics, it is about 2,300 billion yuan (change to invest the fund of the stock market into the fund of the stock) ,Because the stock price drops, pays various expenses of taxation,etc., the market value of the circulation of the security market of today is only 1,300 billion - 1,400 billion yuan. That is to say the black hole has engulfed nearly thousand billion fund together in the stock market over the past 12 years, if the fund which gets rid of other backgrounds is lost, the assets of Chinese ordinary people's family are hundred billion yuan of number of dropouts at least on the stock market.

In this respect, do not vainly hope to get rich quickly, can can work as a boss sleep as well as the businessman in Wenzhou in the floor will give us and enlighten: The emergence of the colony of businessman in Wenzhou of causes the concern day by day. Engaging in trade of them " The secret " Also cause the research interest of the experts and scholars day by day. People generally acknowledge, the businessman in Wenzhou can bear hardships very much, the will is very tough and tensile. One's own popular statement of the businessman in Wenzhou is, not only can work as a boss, but also can sleep in the floor. Even already been paved largerly by the business, the businessman in Wenzhou will still work with all one's might as newly establishing in period.

Those seem to have no retail business that money earn, the businessman in Wenzhou will not dislike and avoid either. The screw nut at several fen, the small component at several mao, they will all treat conscientiously, regard retail business as the undertaking to prepare. An interesting phenomenon of is, the businessman in Wenzhou does not nearly all speculate in shares. In upsurge of stock market several times, the collective of businessman in Wenzhou " absent " ,Watch the fighting from the ramparts. Always unexpectedly the flexible businessman in Wenzhou of head " Miss " Become rich chance,last Shanghai for the moment " the news " of newspaper . The people in Wenzhou dare to rush, but does not rush. The businessman in Wenzhou is very patient in the course of accumulating the wealth, does not vainly hope to get rich quickly. Certain about a certain business, will root, do things, make money steady and surely.

That year, three groups were in fashion for a time, three presidents Wu BingXin exceeding sixty years old every year said to president of giant in the green Shi YuZhu meaningfully: "The money that shouldn't be earned is not earned, the gold covers the ground in the world, it is eaten that can not be open. The world lure getting too much, can restrain to have less peoples desire. " The irony is, these two people became because " it is expanded that hypernormal " in the Chinese entrepreneur With " hypernormal pluralism " And failed model. Poverty state before the life of winner in the lottery above 80% has got back to and has not prized again, and is doing his job unwilling to do originally. Please see the crazy expansion speeds of three: In 1994, the development goal that Wu Bing presumed newly was selling to Damien 100 million in 1994, protected 300 million and fought for 600 million in 1995, protected 900 million and fought for 1,600 million in 1996. But the first made in 1995 " The Five-Year Plan " But turned over this development goal several times: Would fight for 600 million and switch over to fighting for 2 billion in 1995, and would be up to 10 billion in 1996 and reach terrific 90 billion in 1999. According to this grand idea, the annual growth rate of three can reach as high as 1600-2000%, even after up to 60 billion annual sales amount, minimum growth rate should be up to 50% too.

And the group of giant building up with the software, in its brilliant one, business has spanned computer, health product and three major fields of real estate, fall into the fund crisis finally but because the scale is too large, the battle line is too wide, can not extricate oneself. Speculativeness that get rich quickly enable too Qin Chi final from " Mark a king " Throne last valley bottom. Qin Chi " Mark king's story " Already widely known in China. The county of a poor mountain area belongs to the small factory overnight " Full Divine Land of reputation " ," send to Santana to CCTV every day, it was a luxurious Audi that make, answer " ,Then and " whether send one vehicle luxurious to run quickly every day, earn, go back one extend Lincoln " . However, Qin Chi has been only scene for two years, overshadowed, hard to carry on.

Chinese entrepreneur should record a demerit those sentence of BingXin Wu: "The money that should not be made by oneself is not made. " Also learn another ability from CEO of foreign countries: Will withdraw to will expand too. In recent years, the world-famous big company is coming and " withdrawing " constantly Information: Siemens Company sells the production line of the color TV very reluctantlily; Philip sells the subsidiary producing big electrical home appliances, Pepsi Cola, in order to gather to defeat rivals, have to give up hotel and fast food. Last year, Philip Morris Company set about auctioning " non-core business " ,And reduce the staff and combine again; General Motors Corporation will sell 15 parts factory too, in order to further improve the competitiveness. " gets rich quickly " in more and more normal in market cases Speculativeness more and more have market. It is a success trap that should be avoided to want to get a windfall.

4.The cleverness in trivial matters of playing: Played with the cleverness in trivial matters, persons who gain extra advantage by unfair means, must suffer losses in love.

I always think , it is compatriots' chronic illness to play with the cleverness in trivial matters, like gaining extra advantage by unfair means, also the successful trap. There are a lot of cleverness in trivial matters of playing displays ways, a few Chinese behavior in U.S.A. is models among them: liked playing with the cleverness in trivial matters, persons who gain extra advantage by unfair means, must suffer losses. In U.S.A., the credit card company stipulates, it is all free to open an account, sell families, change the card abraded but should pay service charge of 5 dollars. A foreign student in China proposes while going to change cards and is demanded to pay the money: Since it is so, I sell the family first simply, have opened again. The staff members of the credit card company have listened to, feel inconceivable, he says: "Nobody has put forward to such us and bothered about the question. " But think again the foreign student says it is indisputable, say on logic: "All right, let me pay these 5 dollars for you. " Then this compatriot has changed cards free.

Again for example, some shops stipulate, buy a certain item according to the original price, and then buy the second and press the preferential price. Some Chinese's compatriots buy one first and then buy the second, opens a receipt respectively, later, returned one of these at original price, then achieved the goal of buying one and enjoying the preferential price. moreover, take the compatriot of petty gains, afford to pleased with one's own scheming still: "Americans are the silliest. " "Americans can not the money which is bought the soy sauce buy the vinegar. " These compatriots do not think either, if Americans are really as stupid as what they said, how can become the strongest country in the world Such a country, in at the beginning of the 20th century, the intersection of writing and ideal " the Da Tong " that describe for him that Kang Youwei claim of " the the intersection of Da Tong and book " Society.

Don't play with the cleverness in trivial matters, the boss' eyeballs are all that the bright cleverness in trivial matters of playing of love, person liking gaining extra advantage by unfair means always want to gain extra advantage by unfair means: Profit at others' expense, profit at cooperative partner's expense, bully the regular one As a result, they do one's own activity space more and more narrow and smallly, this is exactly that " clever people may be dupes of their own cleverness " ,The cleverness in trivial matters of playing of the love, person liking gaining extra advantage by unfair means are often that loses long-term interests for small immediate interest. So, it is the successful trap to play with the cleverness in trivial matters, like gaining petty advantages in love in . A person worrying about petty gain or loss on minor matter, it is impossible to succeed.

A person worrying about petty gain or loss on minor matter, it is impossible to succeed.

5.The wind follow blindly, says what others say, people do I do too: Successful course, one forms and keeps the course of one's own unique individual character.

Until " whether rifle fight hold up one's head the bird " " the rafter holding up one's head is apt to be rotten " Waiting for the influence of the traditional thought, Chinese seldom have one's own independent distinctions, in " the law does not punish everybody " Under the concept of the rule of law, go, follow the trend and become the insurance method that people understand philosophy and conduct oneself in society with the wind. But market economy with freedom, equal as economy of foundation, and freedom, equal must if independent, but the independence must want the conspicuous individual character. So this one independence, freedom, publicize era of individual character, succeed with strong-minded for the precondition too. I have never seen a person who does not there is not a judgment, say what others say succeed.

Only winner can true quality independence,it is for any pieces of aspiration successful quality which person must possess, also a principle succeeded in adhering to. Including independent economic ability, independent personality, independent thinking,etc..

But in actual life, regardless of intending or having no intention, we are covering up oneself more or less, especially when are we or engaged in thinking more important thing oneself in the public occasion, the trace of the performance is more obvious. What reason impels us to do so I think we do not set up self-confident yet, do not make old success enough in order to support we keep own true quality yet. From the viewpoint of this angle, only winner Yes true quality. Ford, Betty of , become U.S.A. at the the First lady, she with honest and forthright and sincere famous foring promptly. When those cling to reporter not giving up, excavating the news material everywhere on one's trail to ask her view of various questions, she always answers frankly and honestly. One day, a rash reporter had even asked the number of times that she and husband made love, she can answer unhurriedly unexpectedly at that time: "There are many ones that would tried my best. " In addition, she conceal, have a nervous breakdown and it takes medicines, alcohol,etc. to be very " splendor " early period about her never Past. Ford take the fancy of American people by the intersection of madam and these kind of candid one.

Successful course, one forms and keeps the course of one's own unique individual character. Pope Paul is an extraordinary persona grata in eight generations. He comes from poor peasant's family, and the body is fat, but he never covers up one's own life experience, do not evade fat impediment either. After he acts as a pope, once go to visit a large prison of Rome, when he blesses those prisoners, he say he get this time prison for visit nephew of him candid. A lot of people think he is Jesus' incarnations, except that he knows how to share others' bitterness and happiness, an important reason is that he keeps the true quality, never cover up sedulously. is in our China, in actual life, should keep one's own true quality not being very easy to accomplish. That year when China and the United States leader resume historical meeting, in act as some description to the scene at that time once later Nixon. He talks about Chou En-lai meticulously " Shine the spotlight on Mao Zedong " . Even the intelligence such as Chou En-lai person is like this, moreover, general rank and file. Certainly, that is under a kind of particular historical background, it is totally unnecessary like this in daily life for common people, is it unnecessary to so equal to. In fact, I think a lot of camouflage that cannot help of person, besides culture background reason, an important reason, they have not made enough success to support oneself and show the true quality, and keep the true quality.

Form and keep one's own individual character great dramatist Shakespeare of saying: "You are unique. " This is supreme praise to individual character.

Course of growth of people whether one know self- confirming self- course have own particular individual character by everybody progressively, but it is not everybody that can realize this, or since realize this, can confirm that suitable kind of characteristic at once either. Life is a course created oneself to a certain extent. People to appear individual character, mould individual character and form individual character progressively in creating self- course. So, it is not an easy course to form and keep oneself individual. For example, we are in the course of growing up, nearly everybody has gone through one and imitated one, especially the person engaged in the work of art. Imitation is that God entrusts our natural disposition, is one of our ability too. At the beginning of gaining life experience and obtaining employment, it is all right to imitate, even essential. Because it is that we know the self- a series of development that must be gone through to imitate. However, it can only be a kind of means to imitate, instead of the purpose. God moulds this world with the variety. Give birth to you, let you become real oneself in divine force that created the universe. Any is duplicated, will make the party among them lose its meaning that exists, so, you can imitate others, but must not let oneself become others. You are yourself, you must find your own distinctive quality, bring up oneself, form and keep one's own individual character. is so, how to form and keep one's own individual character, own individual character glamour of creation

First, mould oneself actively. Like the grass and trees in life, it is a natural course. People have dynamic role, life is a course of creation in a sense, a only course of self- creation.

So, you must take the positive attitude, take action actively, mould oneself according to that each that oneself hopes, make you become that kind of person that oneself hopes to become. to appear individual character, mould individual character and form individual character progressively in creating self- course in people. Second, accept actual oneself. This kind accepts that includes all advantages and strong point of defect, fault, weakness, trouble and ours, make sure oneself bears. Certainly, you must understand, these weaknesses and defects of yours are oneself, but is not equal to oneself. Faulty, and know one's own shortcoming, the efforts that will make us correct the shortcoming are more pointed, also make our self- progressive efforts more meaningful.

Third, take off the mask. It is easy for this question to say, but it is very difficult to do. In actual life, we are always in displaying the conflict that and protect oneself. On one hand, the aspiration that is respected, require our self-expression; On the other hand, protect the needs of personal secrets, safeguarding one's own security,etc., let us not dare to represent oneself truly again. Solve this problem, has already needed the great social cultural environment met, also need personal efforts, by succeeding in verifying oneself, keep oneself.

6.Satisfied with a small wealth, contentment brings happiness, make no attempt to make progress: Walk and is strong in in weather, the gentleman, in order to make unremitting efforts to improve oneself. " it is the diction had that apt in week "

" contentment brings happiness " It is a adjustment psychology which compatriots follow, method keeping the psychology balanced, but is often turned vulgarly into a kind of attitude of treating the undertaking and working by some people now, thus come day, it is enterprising not to think. I think all the time, success is the maximization of value in life, in other words, given play to to the greatest extent and is bestowed by heaven latent energy. How big on earth to bestowed by heaven latent energy, this everyone can not say clearly. But the one that can affirm is, you can't have an opportunity to realize one's own latent energy unless doing, trying, give play to one's own latent energy. In actual life, should just establish the new goal for oneself constantly, make oneself struggle constantly.

I relatively appreciate the statement which Wang Zhong asks in " self- marketing of marketing people ": People are want to paranoid about oneself. People should be a little unkind to oneself, may make oneself make progress, succeed. Let oneself stand up hard, let and is tormented by the diligence one's own, such a talent conference is dynamic, and is rich in the fulfillment. is satisfied with a small wealth, not think of the enterprising person, it is impossible to make big achievements myself score achievements while denying self-, self- challenge constantly. The goal while founding the company originally is not high, were wanting to accept hands non- dry if can earn hundreds of thousands of one. I have not expected, I realized this goal very fast. If I am satisfied with the goal that is realized for the first time, the company would not develop this kind of scale till now

According to my observation, two main reasons why people fail, one is afraid of difficulty to give up midway, another one is to satisfied with already having. " know, have how much people have in the least succeed, reason he easy and satisfied too really all over the world. " Napoleon and Hill says: "Do not really know all over the world how many people there are not to become, the reason is that he is too apt to be satisfied. Require the progressive first step, can not stay in the existing position absolutely. Can help you to obtain new success constantly if not satisfied with the current situation ing. "

7.Cover up the mistake: Cover up mistake often than acknowledge mistake cost loud cost.

's US President Roosevelt is in gathering in a small town of New Jersey 1912, have made a speech to the boor that the cultural level is lower. When he should participate in and elect enthusiastically too while talking about the woman during this speech, suddenly someone shouted loudly in the audience: "Gentleman! Were not this sentence and your opinion five years ago far from each other " Roosevelt does not avoid or cover up, but answer cleverly: "Yes,isn't it Five years ago, I really had a kind of opinion besides, it was incorrect that I had already realized my opinion at that time deeply now! "

This kind of honest, faithful, sincere, cordial answer of his, not only make that person of question obtain the satisfactory reply, even if other audiences can not be aware at all he has any uneasy mood. everybody will make mistakes, people all understand this reason. When others make mistakes, we always hope they can admit and correct, but when such a thing happen in oneself on one's body, a lot of people take and avoid the attitude: Either in order to save the face from damage, or out of acknowledging the mistake has a feeling not so good as people.

Then frequently, people are unwilling to acknowledge one's own mistake. This causes obstacle that people associate each other, because everybody insists oneself is right, and their own views are different clearly, even opposite, then leave and complain about, be discontented and dispute, light to influence relation each other, heavy to influence one's own image of conducting oneself, meanwhile, it will make you shoulder heavy psychological burden to cover up the wrong behavior.

So, unwilling to acknowledge the mistake, " save face " Method,if you can't make by people, make another mistake most, it is let oneself not lasted heavy burdenned not to mean. On the contrary, if acknowledge the mistake bravely, will help you to reap in succeeding on the road to some extent. cover up mistake often than acknowledge mistake cost loud cost. The greatest mistake, not to acknowledge the mistake. When you plan to insist on anything, had better think about your insistance carefully first, because you really have an indefectible reason Because you are just " Save face " That is all If you are aware it is inclusive that there is factor of saving face, then please abandon your insistance early. Because " Save face " And any action adopted, can only make you in the position easiest to attack, assume the defensive passively.

8.Put forth effort on overcoming the weakness: Use energy for making the most of the advantage to, but not overcome the weakness.

no matter in the battle field, or on the store, people all know how to give play to the reason of one's own advantage, but what a question of treating one's own weakness or inferior position, people have two kinds of mistaken ideas. First, while giving play to one's own advantage, should remedy one's own inferior position; Second, while giving play to one's own advantage, should overcome one's own inferior position. I think, how to give play to one's own advantage one should be used in energy, but not use it on how to remedy or overcome one's own weakness.

Everybody knows, one's weakness or shortcoming, just as changing in the position on of physics, it is a relative concept, that is it is relative to different reference systems but the speech: It is a shortcoming from the viewpoint of this; But from the viewpoint of another one, it may be the advantage. Moreover, " rivers and mountains can be changed,but it is hard to alter a person's character " ,One spent in benefit produced in time on the weakness of remedying the shortcoming, overcoming, benefit produced in time to than to make the most of the advantage is much lower. For example, I am a more wooden person, are not good at speaking under the public; But I am sharper, the judgement to the situation around is more accurate, good at catching the psychology of the other side. If I spend the time and energy on changing and overcome and speak the wooden above, perhaps still feeling oneself inferior for one gram of weaknesses in this respect today, where to have attention to do one's own career for one's own shortcoming, inferior position, weakness want with magnifying glass and watch so, my principle is, must give play to one's own advantage, put forth effort to work hard on how to give play to one's own advantage, give play to one's own advantage to the greatest extent, create one's own value maximizing also. As to the so-called shortcoming, inferior position, weakness, should try every possible means to avoid, but not is thinking how to overcome and remedy.

One spent in benefit produced in time on the weakness of remedying the shortcoming, overcoming, benefit produced in time to than to make the most of the advantage is much lower. It is Nobel chemistry Prize winner that Otto draws hertz tile, his growth procedure declaration: If one wants to succeed, must find one's own advantage and and give play to one's own advantage to the greatest extent. When is beginning to study in the middle school, what parents chose for him is the way that is being studied of a clause. Unexpectedly, will come down in one term, the teacher writes down such a comment for him: "It is very diligent that the tile is drawn hertz, but adhere rigidly to excessively, such a person can not move ahead in literature. "

Parents have to respect the son's opinion, let him change to study the canvas. But the tile is drawn hertz and neither cared about and patterned, will not polish, not strong to the comprehension of art, the achievement comes out bottom in the class. The comments of the school are more objectionable: "You can't just bring up it on the graphics art. " faces so " Clumsy" Student,it is most have hopeless without being become a useful person without being thought Mr. by hed. Only the chemical teacher thinks he does things conscientious and meticulously, possesses and does chemistry well to test due quality, advise him to study chemistry. Then, the tile draws spark of one hertz of a intelligent ones and is lighted, hold a safe lead among classmates quickly

The tile draws success of hertz, has proved people's intellectual development is not balanced, there are vigorous point and weakness. It was the a bit more best once one found one's own intelligence, may obtain the surprising achievement. So, must try every means to give play to one's own advantage, but not remedy one's own inferior position with all strength. and it gives play to one's own advantages to be corresponding to the greatest extent, to take, form one's own characteristic.

9.Job-hop repeatedly: Choosing the waste caused constantly, it is the greatest waste in life.

Wang Zhong asks in " self- marketing " the book " of marketing people Make a reservation in life " Talk one very kind reason in the one: The development of people's life, or develop along the specialized direction, or develop along the direction of the trade; Can't jump between speciality or trade, and think that does not job-hop blindly assigning to the speciality, trade, it is the most greatly wasting of life.

Choosing the waste caused constantly, it is the greatest waste in life. I agree to his view very much, the greatest waste in life, it is the waste chosen. I myself am a very good example. Before engaged in the lift industry, a lot have been all right that I have done, but because change frequently, where walk and which family property enter thoroughly, the result is gainless. It is a very meticulous era of a division among specialized departments now, a person's energy is limited, it is mastered, succeed in each trade or speciality that can not be all, and can only be chosen a trade or speciality among them, go ahead long-termly, thus form one's own key competitiveness. What is called key competitiveness, it is in one trade or some speciality, you have an exclusive, have advantage that others do not possess, what folk adage say, " have spark, dare to take on the porcelain and live. " job-hop too frequent person, lose more than gain often. Because of the cultivation of the ability to work, can really master long time through one, unless it job-hop if often change one's profession, apt to become on balm often,namely everything can any, but nothing is mastered, non- professional, have to not be doing the elementary work that the need is being mastered all the time.

Jump, have while being inadvisable while being poor frequently, fry the intersection of company and applicant of squid often as to those, the advertising unit often bears a grudge, is afraid you can not do long either after their company. The executive of the employing unit often doubts people do not need, if there is suspicion on you, it is very difficult for you to have the opportunity to hold up one's head. is even more like this to white collar. The job of white collar people makes a reservation, it is decided that it is impossible for their success and gains to surmount success of the company. Only the company has succeeded, white collar people could succeed. Just think, if General Electric Apparatus Co.(U.S.A.) is a terrible enterprise thoroughly, then what success of president Welch is it Job-hopping may increase white collar people's income, but the growth of this kind of personal income, with an enterprise and the growth in earnings brought to staff can't be mentioned in the same breath from small to big. The little big lotus is Li Jiacheng's secretary, have been following Li Jiacheng all the time in these decades, she is from the wage-earners of thousands of yuan, make sure in the wage-earners of body home more than one hundred million, it was the repayment that the company grows up that was enjoyed. The repayment because the intersection of she and personal knowledge and experience have improvement and equal value exchange that receive greatly, only because she stays on this car loyally to a great extent.

Comparing with Wu Shihong coming out from Microsoft, Yang YuanQing of Lenovo Group is a successful white collar person, he knows how to keep and enjoy the chance that the company succeeds for oneself at least. Even job-hop frequent U.S.A., loyal and devoted person that serve company those, respected by people too. We like watching the match of NBA, those sportsmen contract with this team these two years, pass for two years and change to another team, perhaps they have an opportunity to win the championship, but they have not received football fan's real love and esteem. The most typical example is Karl and Marlon, he belongs to 18 years in Utah Jazz on active service, regarded with Stockton as gods in Utah State, it is the loyal symbol, but in order to get a champion rings before retirement, moved on to the Lakers in 2003, as a result it is No. two to classify as by local fans to receive repugnant personages most. On the contrary, defend Robinson in his career in 17 years big, serve Spurs, and lead Spurs to win NBA championship, the perfect curtain call in 2003 twice. Football shirt 50 of his retires permanently too, is hung on Spurs home court high, become the symbol of a kind of honor.

As to those applicants who often fry the company squid, the advertising unit often bears a grudge, afraid you can not do long either after their company. The executive of the employing unit often doubts people do not need, if there is suspicion on you, it is very difficult for you to have the opportunity to hold up one's head. Uncertain that it is success to start an undertaking by oneself, if you can turn into a golden collar in the company, become and work as a temporary labourer an emperor, that is a kind of success too. The frequent job-hopper is certainly hopeless.

10.By hook or by crook: The person by hook or by crook, often excavate the grave for the purpose by means.

"The gentleman loves the wealth, the ones that fetch have one. " This is management creed in lots and lots of years been believed in by our ancestor, but a lot of young people of today, lack faith, make profit as one's only aim, they advocate and learn thickly and wickedly, do things and stop at nothing. Carnegie has told us one has been relevant " Slick and sly Stanley " This person's something:

He whether one wear sunglasses, participating in your wedding person, as you get married that photo show friend when, will they ask, who is that gambler is at student age, he is considered to be the cleverest person - -Who else can write out that kind of his to get " First " Thesis

Look, he pays attention to the mark very much, just as that he pays attention to the friend, because in this world, what he cared about most is, whether he is liked. If you belong to Democratic Party, he belongs to Democratic Party. If you are Republican Party, he is Republican Party. If you are a Fascist Party, then God has only blest us. He can display the kind person very well - -Carnegie has seen him and given the friend film ticket, foreign wine, anything, lack of, pay, ask someone, go, abate chicken at the horse only. everyone knows " The slick and sly smooth profit of history " This person, he, in order to promote oneself, everything can be done out, but his methods are all wrong.

On a lot of young people just went out of the school door, were often all full of patriotic fervor, full of bright hope to the future, but social reality is not often that what they imagined is so simple. They or attacking because of finding the work, or meet inequitable treatment in the unit work and feel disappointed. In this case, they are often apt to go to extremes, and then believe in it in order to reach the thought of the extreme pragmatism by hook or by crook of the purpose, the ones that have become slick and sly " The Stanley type " Personages. The person by hook or by crook of , often excavate the grave for the purpose by means. If you become a person by hook or by crook at the beginning of moving towards the society, then you may lose the interests for a long time because of small profit before one's eyes. Such as some people, make, sell just the ABC of in company, think oneself is the veteran whose nothing understood, get commissions, get rid of the list, does not select hands for one's own interests. The more terrible one is, they are often pleased with one's own scheming, in fact, which company boss is not all fools, they do it in this way to in fact use very small profits to buy out one's own future.

11. " don't do unto others as you wouldn't have them do unto you " : Satisfied one's own purpose, need realizing by means of others' service, so should do the best to meet others' demand.

Chinese have been following" don't do unto others as you wouldn't have them do unto you " that Confucius said all the time Idea combine until it regard as let's associate as people criterion. This statement refers to the thing that oneself does not like, don't give to others from simple level; From profound level, mean if you do not want others to treat you in such a manner that you do not like, then you don't treat others by this way!

This kind of idea is a kind of embodiment cultivating the way oneself that the typical the Confucianists paid attention to the introspection, the need of the suitable agricultural social communication way, strengthened this way too conversely at the same time to a certain extent. However, with the rapid development of commodity economy, China's market economic system has already taken shape. Realize from the intersection of goods and value angle of way come on, watch, most great characteristic of market economy, even if the value of the goods is realizing through others, everybody serves others also. If you want to realize the value of goods and service, you must let your goods and service approved by the other side. In this way, " don't do unto others as you wouldn't have them do unto you " Idea can't getting more social to reflect totally for economic development and the needs of social communication, it was the idea of others' service that met the needs of this kind. By the look of whole big social roller chain, thought alone that planned to begin by oneself, end up serving others. Said a bit more simply, but it is oneself to be subjective, it is others to be objective. It is one's own quality, depend on it as how well others do. So, the wise man understands how to meet others' need. This kind of idea is reflected by interpersonal contacts, it should be eager to meet the needs of others, help people's need, cater to his tastes. The wise man of understands how to meet others' need.